Apparently I'm not the only woman on a quest to define and live out feminine strength and beauty. I met another such woman at a hotel pool recently. She had a slightly different perspective.
Madison's soccer team was staying at a hotel during a weekend soccer tournament. After a long day of games the parents and the team were unwinding at the pool. I watched these twelve and thirteen year old girls work on a synchronised swimming routine together--their two piece bathing suits betraying their girlish activity and clearly exposing them as women in the making.
As I sat near the edge of the pool I noticed a strange woman in the pool watching the girls. (Not strange as in 'weird' but strange as in 'she wasn't with us'.) She made her way over to me and asked if I was the coach of these girls. She had a strong eastern European accent which made her seem exotic but also hard to understand. I explained that I was a parent and then she just started sharing her view on strength and femininity. Let me summarize it for you here.
In her view, its good that the girls are playing soccer and developing physical and mental strength, but it's an outright crime that they wear such ugly uniforms (It was more like "It is good to be developing the strength in the girls but it is bad they wear boy uniforms. So ugly.") She went on to suggest that I talk to the coach about getting them uniforms that are more feminine and differentiate them from boys. Not so baggy. Better color schemes. ("They are no boys. Should dress more in feminine uniform")
Interesting. All of it. Her opinion. Her accent. Her boldness in declaring her viewpoint in broken English to a complete stranger. She was clearly comfortable with her femininity (as observed in her bosoms spilling out of her swim suit) but did she have a point? Is this the magic bullet for my daughter--learning to slide tackle while wearing chartreuse spandex? Probably
not. But I did buy her a cute headband just in case.
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